"If you think you can, you can; if you think you can't, you're right?" ~Mark Twain
Simply said...it saddens me. Negative thinking, whining and complaining seems to be the trend of the last decade. It's everywhere you go; in the grocery store, on the street, at your job, Facebook, Twitter, Myspace, neighbors, family, friends, parents, kids, spouses; you name it, you don't have to look far to hear it. Disagree? Just ask a question at any local market ... "Hi, how are you doing today?" It's a loaded question for sure.... it's nearly guaranteed you will hear stories of illness, death, financial woes, aches, pains, complaints of children, parents, in-laws, spouses, legal troubles, etc. I try to look for an opening in there somewhere as quickly as possible to change the direction, and ask excitedly, "So what have you done that's fun lately; any trips; any exciting news?" My hope of possibly changing their mindset, a kind of a nudge to think about... Something good must have been mixed in there somewhere, come on dig deep. That may come across crass or sarcastic, but it is altruistic...I care about your mindset.
Sure, many will say there are plenty of excuses; because of our economy; because they lost a job; they lost a loved one; they are sick; lost a home, a pet, a husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, couldnt get credit for a new car, a Nintendo, a Gucci purse,...etc. I've had personal experience with, and conversations with, those who believe positive people are not living in reality, the "real" world. Even going so far as to say they are phony. Well I beg to differ! I happen to be one of those people; I'm positive, daily, and there is no phoniness about it.
For the life of me, I cannot see the purpose in dwelling on misery or negativity, whether self-inflicting or imposing it on others. How you live your life is a decision you make ... you have options, you have alternatives, you have choices. If you choose sad, miserable, whiny, complaining, and negative... then that is what you attract (see above quote). If you wake up each day and decide your life sucks, then your day is probably going to suck - because you believe it to be so.YOU have the power to change your thoughts, to make your day better... to make your day as awesome as it can be.
Test it out yourself! For 30 days, mark your calendar and wake up each day to remind yourself of all the things you have to be grateful for, that's a great place to start. Tell yourself you will do something nice for yourself each day - be kind to you. Make a point of doing one nice thing for someone else each day during the 30 days, but don't point it out or throw it in their face if they don't respond immediately. It could be as simple as, packing that person a lunch, or cooking dinner; finding a sick person and helping them with a small chore or reading them a chapter from a book. The power of our minds are very healing and forgiving. If you make up your mind to be more positive each day and work on that every day, you will be surprised at how easy it becomes to be more positive each and every day - as a LIFESTYLE.
I can testify to the power of positive thinking, how it can heal you and make your life RICH. Realizing that negativity and misery serves no purpose in your life will free you of those crippling feelings you build up and on. Break FREE from the worry habit that is perpetuated in our society; Protest It! Buy literature on "Positive Thinking", read articles on the subject, or find a group or program to join. It is also as simple as searching YouTube videos on "Positive Thinking". Those are FREE! Practice this daily. Stress and worry are so unhealthy for your mind and body. Stop the madness.
Life is for LIVING, be happy in your days on earth. Build good memories to talk about in your old age, not reliving memories of pain and anger.
Will you make time to invest in your own happiness? Will you make that worthwhile effort?
If you have 5 minutes to work toward your happiness: http://youtu.be/8qSTHPABoHc
If you have 10 minutes to work toward your happiness: http://youtu.be/pfWGoLj1JCM